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Is This What She Is Thinking?
That child who won’t use the toilet…
You poop your pants sometimes. You aren’t always sure why. You are four years old and you are really smart. And it isn’t as though you like it when your mother gets mad when she discovers you in your room smelling like shit. The poop all smooshed into your underwear, the cleaning up a bit of a nightmare.
It’s just that you get all engrossed (see what happened there?) in playing and the thought of taking the time to sit on the toilet is just too much. You are like those ladies at the casino you heard the adults talking about who put on grown-up diapers so they don’t have to leave their seats to go to the bathroom to go pee. They probably don’t poop in them though.
You are just like them. It’s just too time-consuming to leave what you are engaged in. When you play it takes over your whole brain. There is no way you want to interrupt that train of thought to go sit on the toilet. The poop is warm when it comes out; it’s not a problem. And you never pee your pants. That leads to an immediate puddle and you can’t play while standing in a puddle. It runs down your legs too. Very disruptive.
And you haven’t yet discovered as some adults have that sitting on the toilet is one place you get left alone. Except when you are a mother, and then you aren’t. There is…
